In comes the sister in law who as you know already is white. My nephew for the first 10 years of his life has always referred to himself as black and viewed himself as that. During the summer last summer he was in town and we were all sitting around --me, him, my mother --talking about school coming in the fall and filling out school forms. I cannot recall how exactly it came up but we were talking about the large percentage of biracial children and how those percentages were increasing. We were talking about what they would check when it comes to race.
The old adage in America was that if you had a drop of black blood in your veins you were black. Given changes in time that has changed some. Biracial is now on the forms today along with alot of other choices. My nephew said that he was no longer black. He had been told by my sister in law to check white or bi-racial. White!! My mother looked atme. I looked at her. I then asked my nephew why he would check white. He said it was because my sister in law told him to and they had talked about it and he could be any race he wants to check.
???? What is up with that. I think that is wrong as she is not his biological mother.
My brother has full custody and he lives with my brother and SIL.
(((OKAY sister in law is just tooo00 long to keep spelling out so I will use "SIL" from now on.)))
I think that she is confusing him about his identity as he looks black. He is not fair or a very light skinned black person. Olive is olive not creme colored. If he were very light he maybe could pass as white.
My mother asked him about biracial. He said that since he has a grandfather that is white, he can put biracial. Now that seems more plausible. It seems plausible as he has a black father and a white step mother. His coloring is the coloring of their 2 year old( my niece)...olive.
The next thing he told us was that my SIL was going to get his hair permed so that it was straight. WTF??? His hair is just fine curly. My mother and I both told my nephew not to let her do anything to his hair as it would be ruined and totally not needed! She cuts his hair now as opposed to letting him go to the barber. My brother used to take him to the barber all the time when they were still just dating and was engaged. Once they got married, she took over! Look out! She controls everything and he --my brother-- let's her control everything.
If she did not want kids with black curly hair she should not have married a black man. You can't make black kids into white ones by perming their hair or having them check white on a form!
What do yall in the blogosphere think about that?!