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Friday, November 26, 2004

Black Men and Sexuality

OLYMPIA, Washington (AP) -- A man was convicted by a judge Monday on charges he deliberately exposed 17 women to HIV by having unprotected sex with them. Five of the women have tested positive for the virus, which causes AIDS.

Anthony E. Whitfield, 32, faces a minimum sentence of 137 years in prison on the 17 counts of first-degree assault with sexual motivation and other charges.

Health officials said as many as 170 people may have been exposed to the virus because of Whitfield's actions, counting subsequent partners of women he slept with. No additional people have tested positive for HIV, but 45 refused to be tested or couldn't be found. [More here]

I think that is just as bad as brothers pretending to be straight and they are gay.  It is all murder to me.  It is far worse if gay men hide it and date/pretend to be straight.  All the lives they affect.  Wives, girlfriends, kids born dying with aids.  It is a disgrace and why is it happening?  Why does the pressure for black men who are gay greater that for other races?  Does anyone know? 
I thought with Ellen D. coming  out and Rosie O.  both men and women who were gay would feel better about that lifestyle choice.  Seems it only relieved the pressure on white gay people.  I know it sure did in our office.  We had so may people come out of the closet when Ellen did it was ridiculous! 
 

   Some Gay Black Men Are Keeping a Deadly Secret
St. Louis Post-Dispatch
04.21.02; Denise Hollinshed; Jennifer LaFleur

Some health experts believe that a double lifestyle by men, called being on the "down low," contributes to the spiraling AIDS rate among blacks. While figures show that some white and Hispanic men also hide their sexual orientation from their heterosexual partners, for African-American men, the pressure to hide is greater.

"There's very little research here," said John L. Peterson, a researcher from Georgia State University who has studied AIDS in African-American communities. But Peterson said that blacks who identify themselves as gay face ostracism from their families and communities. Many black men are reluctant to admit their sexual identity even to themselves.

The phenomenon of hiding sexual identity may account for recent findings from the CDC indicating that 64 percent of all women who get new HIV infections are African-American.

The mounting number of AIDS cases among African-Americans in the St. Louis area has spurred concern and discussion. While blacks made up about 20 percent of the region's population, they accounted for 64.6 percent of diagnosed AIDS cases. Nationally, more than half of new HIV infections occur among blacks, although blacks represent only 13 percent of the population, according to the CDC.

Funeral home director Carl Officer, the former mayor of East St. Louis, said he has been staggered by the number of young men and women with AIDS whom he has buried and the condition of their bodies when they arrive at his facilities. "This is genital genocide," Officer said. "It is a very serious, painful, expensive, debilitating way to die. I've listened for the last couple of weeks to what biological and chemical terrorism could do. In many cases those are perhaps a mercy killing in comparison to dying of AIDS," he said.

Many organizations in the St. Louis region are bringing in speakers to talk about issues like the down low lifestyle. "I feel so scared for sisters who are now dealing with the invisible black man. We will continue to lose sisters because men will not come out," said J.L. King, an activist, educator, author and divorced father of three adult children. According to King, white gay men have their own churches, clubs and bars where the word can be spread openly about disease prevention. It doesn't work that way among down low blacks, he said.

Many women who learn their male lovers have infected them feel shame, humiliation and disgust. One mother with AIDS, whose lover had HIV when he left prison but didn't inform her, stressed the use of condoms, whether a person is gay or straight. "I don't know one black, red-blooded man that's going to tell his woman he's bisexual or that he has been messing around. Just be aware. Don't be ashamed to bring out a condom. If a person doesn't want to use a condom, then let him go," she said.




And it is not happening over here in America.  This is a problem world wide.  Over in Britain there is a big campaign urging gay me to come out of the closet.    

 
Black Britain urged to accept gay men
Campaign: Posters discuss responses to homophobia

The UK's leading HIV and Aids charity is beginning a campaign against homophobia among black communities - saying enough is enough.
"I told my brother and he didn't talk to me for four months. Now he keeps asking about my girlfriend. Well I tell him about relationships - but there's no girlfriend and he knows that. It's just his way of blanking it out."


I know my Mum would never accept me ... she's not prepared to talk about it and would never speak to me again if I told her.

James
James is young, bright, black and gay. When he was 19 he tried to kill himself, partly because of the fear of telling his family he was gay.

It was a conversation about that incident that led him unintentionally to tell his brother he was gay.

The reaction was hostile and James (not his real name) is even less likely to tell his mother.

Among black men, his experience is not unusual. The Terrence Higgins Trust, the UK's leading HIV and Aids charity, is launching a campaign to tackle homophobia within black communities. [More here]



While searching the web I came across this book which should make for interesting reading.


One of the Children: Gay Black Men in Harlem

Author: Hawkeswood, William G.
Genre: African-American
Publisher: University of California Press
Released: 1995
An anthropologist's attempt to de-exoticize gay Harlemites
A Review by Stephen Murray
02/17/2003

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One of the Children: Gay Black Men in Harlem is a posthumously edited and published study of some gay Harlemites. Although he knew that "most gay men born in Harlem or living in Harlem do not 'hang out' in the scene there," that many have non-black partners, and that more than a few have sex with males and with females, Bill Hawkeswood selected for interviewing fifty-seven black gay men (twenty-seven Harlem-born, fifteen moving there as adults) who identify themselves primarily as black, "pursue their gay life in Harlem," and are racially endogamous in partner selection. More than half (thirty-four) were 'hustlers' (rent boys); twice as many (twenty) lived alone as lived with lovers. Hawkeswood attributed more conscious calculation and choice about where to live and socialize than seems likely—certainly more than are warranted from his data.

A white New Zealand anthropology graduate student at Columbia, he claimed that "by creating a social network of informants around myself, I was able to observe and participate in the everyday lives of the gay black men I wished to describe." Most ethnographers probably underestimate the extent to which they observe an ego-centered network and confuse those they know with a pre-existing community, and many have been very casual about "sampling," but claims about "most" of a population (in this instance, most gay male Harlemites being well educated, actively Christian, employed, providing economic and other kinds of supports to their natal families) are not very credible when based on a deliberately biased sample of an idiosyncratic network.  [ More here]

My thoughts are:  If you are gay, just stand up and be gay.  Noone cares really.  It is okay.  At least I don't.  If you are gay, well you just are and I am fine with that.  Just stand up and be who you are.  Don't continue to hide behind your penis and pretend to be straight!!!! 
  

One of the Children: Gay Black Men in Harlem
 

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